When Your Blog Is Belittled | #TBH Series Kick-Off!

Dress: Superdry

Sandals: Sam Edelman


Welcome to the first installment of my new weekly series: To Be Honest – #TBH for short.

Every Tuesday or Thursday of each week, I’ll be sharing my uncensored thoughts and opinions of things that have been on my mind; using this platform to publicly vent but also inquire/ask you guys of your own thoughts & opinions in response to what I’m sharing.

I want this to be a form of open communication between us all, as I genuinely care and appreciate what you guys have to say! No response is right or wrong, this is simply a discussion board – some topics might be more sensitive to others and note of discretion will be advised if necessary.


#TBH, IT MAKES ME BITTER WHEN MY BLOG IS BELITTLED BY PEOPLE IN MY INNER CIRCLE…

Recently, I’ve been getting passive aggressive stabs at my blog & essentially my career as a blogger by some people I wouldn’t have considered being capable of such a lack of support. Naturally I’m used to Internet trolls commenting rude statements on whatever I choose to publish, and I’m aware of the risks I’m taking when putting myself out there in such a vulnerable way. That is one of the most common things that bloggers need to have a backbone about, unfortunately.

But it really sucks when the people you believed would have your back or be on your side, regardless if they understand fully what you’re working your ass off to do, don’t prove to be supportive. It’s so easy to assume a blogger is somewhat of a narcissist, obsessed with social media and constantly needing to document x, y, z like your body needs its daily intake of water. I’ve realized recently that some of my closer people see me that way, and I’d be lying if I didn’t feel incredibly hurt that people who KNOW and HAVE KNOWN me for years have suddenly changed their tune solely based on the career I’ve chosen to have and pursue.

What so many people don’t realize is that 90% of the time, bloggers DO NOT want to be engaging 24/7 – we do it because IT’S OUR JOB. It’s what we ultimately get paid to do – promote products, remain engaging and relatable, build our follower base so our opportunities to collaborate become more frequent, etc. The list goes on and on. Honestly whenever I’m done promoting whatever I needed to share on a given day, I feel a sense of relief to be done. When being on your phone becomes a job itself, you start to resist posting anything when you aren’t required to – hence why I oftentimes go MIA on the weekends…

Don’t get me wrong, I absolutely love my job and what I’m doing and by no means want to give any of it up. But at the same time, feeling like I have to prove something to my inner circle doesn’t give me excitement when wondering what is being said or thought of behind my back, from the people who have known me before my blogging career and whose opinions I take to heart.


ANYONE DEALING WITH THIS TOO?
ANY SUGGESTIONS OF HOW TO MENTALLY PUSH PAST THE BELITTLEMENT?

To Be Bright

18 Comments

  • Reply Ryan Laine August 31, 2017 at 8:13 am

    The more honest you are, the better your blog will be, and your real friends will be encouraging and understanding of your need to put your work first. The reason I love your blog is because you open yourself up both personally and professionally, making your content more relatable and easier to implement in my every day life. Confront those people and tell them how you feel. If they deny it, then you know they aren’t truthful, and if they didn’t realize, then you nipped something in the bud.

    • Reply Tilden August 31, 2017 at 10:09 am

      Thank you so much for your kind words Ryan! And you’re right, I should confront the person(s) because either way I will get my feelings out in the open regardless of how they are accepted on the other end. That’s the healthy thing to do for sure! xx

  • Reply Briana August 31, 2017 at 10:58 am

    So sorry to hear! You have a great blog! And that outfit is so pretty!

    Briana
    https://beyoutifulbrunette.com/

    • Reply Tilden September 1, 2017 at 4:21 pm

      Thank you Briana! Appreciate you stopping by and your kind words :]

  • Reply Ryan Laine August 31, 2017 at 12:15 pm

    Also – I feel like you sharing things with your family and life mean that normal people can relate more, and be like wow, I can also where and afford those clothes because I really can connect with you…if anything you’re making yourself more down to earth than anything!

    • Reply Tilden September 1, 2017 at 4:15 pm

      Thank you so much Ryan!

  • Reply Robyn Garner August 31, 2017 at 2:06 pm

    First I have to say, love the outfit, the bag and sandals are perfect with the white dress, beautiful. And secondly, I admire your honesty, do not stop.

    • Reply Tilden September 1, 2017 at 4:16 pm

      Thank you Robyn! It feels great to hear that my honesty is appreciated! :]

  • Reply Rebecca @ Strength and Sunshine August 31, 2017 at 4:01 pm

    Fantastic idea for a series, because you know you are NOT alone in your thoughts!

    • Reply Tilden September 1, 2017 at 4:16 pm

      Thank you Rebecca! I hope this series will do some good for us all!

  • Reply Kim Moore August 31, 2017 at 5:08 pm

    I am a 51 year old Mom living across the country from you in Arizona. I love your blog and although you are 1/2 my age and wear some outfits I wish I had the nerve to wear when I was your age, most days I click on your link. I find a lot of your blog helpful to me such as your exercise tips and your Nair post (loved it!). Love the clothes and accessories too! So, as an “elder” to a young person – my advice – do it anyways! People will always judge you no matter what you do! Find your supporters and stick with them. If they turn on you, find new ones! You are beautiful and you seem like you are pretty darn successful living in N.Y.C. and wearing beautiful clothes and writing a blog every day in addition to probably another job too! Keep at it girlfriend!! You got this!

    • Reply Tilden September 1, 2017 at 4:18 pm

      Thank you so much for your advice Kim! You’re right, no matter what I do someone will have something to say. Might as well stick to doing it for me! :]

  • Reply Gabrielle August 31, 2017 at 5:38 pm

    I am so sorry you’re experiencing such a debilitating lack of support and understanding. You’re no more a narcissist than an actor or model or a television personality or a columnist. Anyone whose job consists of using themselves as a key element of their daily work is unfortunately subject to these accusations and they are often unfair. It’s easy to tell from your content that you are *sharing* yourself with your audience, not begging for attention, and I think you’re super. If someone who doesn’t know you personally can see that, I think your friends should be able to as well. If they aren’t… well then that’s their problem and not yours.

    • Reply Tilden September 1, 2017 at 4:18 pm

      Thank you Gabrielle! I appreciate your words and agree, it’s their problem and not mine 😀

  • Reply Brooke August 31, 2017 at 7:55 pm

    I almost always have to explain why exactly I blog and that I earn an income from it. I haven’t been faced with as much negativity about it, but just more of a general misunderstanding about it. It really is so much work and I feel exactly like you now about being on social media!

    Brooke
    pumps and push-ups

    • Reply Tilden September 1, 2017 at 4:20 pm

      Right!? It’s crazy but it sometimes becomes such a chore to post haha. But we keep at it because we still love the hustle at the end of the day. Thanks for stopping by Brooke!

  • Reply Nicole September 2, 2017 at 11:48 pm

    Thanks for linking up to Top of the World Style. These sandals are so cute. The bag is a great finish for this outfit! Have a great Labor Day weekend.

    • Reply Tilden September 3, 2017 at 12:16 am

      Thanks Nicole! You as well! Cheers to Summer 2017

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