Thirty, Flirty & Thriving: 30 Things I’ve Learned Since 1991

Today’s my 30th birthday! And naturally, there’s no better way to ring in this new decade of adulthood than 1) having it fall on a Monday this year, and 2) reporting for Virtual Jury Duty starting at 7:45AM. But this is why I ALWAYS try to intentionally celebrate my birthday a few days before or the weekend prior than on my actual birth date – clearly many things tend to happen on the day of that I’ve learned my lesson. Consider this #1 of the list of 30 things I’ve learned over the years LOL.

In all seriousness, I’m so happy to be turning 30 today. I’ve always wanted to say I’m “Thirty, Flirty & Thriving” ever since I heard the phrase prayed by young Jenna Rink’s mouth while huddled in a basement closet wishing she was anyplace else on her 14th Birthday. I think we can all relate to that feeling of wishing we were ahead & past from whatever was bothering us at a given time in our teenage lives. But little do we realize there’s so much we’re learning about ourselves during that time that ultimately shapes who we become by the age we’re looking forward to being. For most, I’d say it’s turning 21 but for me, it was strangely ages 25 and 30 I was most looking forward to growing up.

Although my young childhood memories have faded in the specific department, there are a select few moments that got stored in the long term memory that I still think about today. As I’ve grown up and now have officially left my Twenties behind as of 11:59PM yesterday, I want to share 30 things I’ve learned over the years that I feel have led me to where I am today – someone who’s excited to be turning another year older & extremely happy with the person I’ve become.

IT’S OKAY TO BE THE EMPATHETIC ONE
BE KIND TO STRANGERS
USE YOUR MANNERS, IT’S NOTICED WHEN YOU DON’T
APOLOGIZE WHEN YOU’RE INVOLVED, SAYING ‘SORRY’ IS RESPECTED
FLEX YOUR BACKBONE WHEN WARRANTED
IT’S OKAY TO FIRE FRIENDS
TREAT ‘SELF-CARE’ AS A JOB RESPONSIBILITY
DON’T SAY ANYTHING BEHIND BACKS THAT YOU WOULDN’T SAY TO FACES
PASSIVE-AGGRESSIVENESS IS TACKY
MAKE YOUR BED EVERY MORNING
LISTEN TO YOUR GUT, IT’S SERIOUSLY ALWAYS RIGHT
A SACRIFICE TODAY COULD BE A SUCCESS TOMORROW
TO-DO LISTS MAKE EVERYTHING EASIER
IF YOU DON’T LIKE IT, THEN CHANGE IT
BUT DON’T CHANGE WHO YOU ARE FOR SOMEONE ELSE
SURROUND YOURSELF WITH PEOPLE WHO RESPECT THE HUSTLE
MAINTAIN YOUR OWN LIFE/INTERESTS IN ANY RELATIONSHIP
RELATIONSHIPS SHOULD BE A TWO-WAY STREET, EXIT IF YOU FIND YOURSELF IN A ONE-WAY
SERIOUS HEARTBREAK LEADS TO A FULLER HEART
WEAR SPF EVEN IF IT’S NOT SUNNY
IT’S NEVER TOO LATE TO START FROM SCRATCH
STANDARDS SHOULD REMAIN HIGH, BUT EXPECTATIONS SHOULD REMAIN FLEXIBLE
IT’S OKAY TO CHANGE YOUR MIND
EMBRACE THE LOWS, APPRECIATE THE HIGHS
YOU’RE NEVER TOO FULL NOR TOO OLD FOR DESSERT
BE MINDFUL OF THE GOLDEN RULE
DON’T STRESS ABOUT THE THINGS YOU CANNOT CONTROL
NEVER UNDERESTIMATE THE POWER OF A WRITTEN CARD/NOTE
YOU’LL ALWAYS BE DISCOVERING WHO YOU ARE
HAPPINESS SHOULD BE YOUR NUMBER ONE PRIORITY, NO EXCEPTIONS

I’m so grateful to be celebrating another year around the sun, to be able to do what I love each & every day and for all the incredible people I’ve met along the way. Cheers to 30 – the start of this amazing decade & all that’s to come in these next 10 years!

4 Comments

  • Reply Mica June 30, 2021 at 6:11 pm

    What a cute pink dress on you! Happy birthday! even if you aren’t spending your day as planned I hope it’s still a good one! thanks for sharing your life lessons too!

    Hope you are having a lovely week ๐Ÿ™‚

  • Reply April Harris July 2, 2021 at 7:30 am

    Happy 30th Birthday! I really enjoyed reading your list of 30 things you have learned. They are very thought-provoking and encouraging. Hope the virtual jury duty went okay and you still had time to celebrate. You look wonderful in your dress! Wishing you a great year ahead!

  • Reply Shelbee on the Edge July 5, 2021 at 7:45 am

    Happy, Happy Birthday to you, Tilden! This is a beautiful list of life lessons! So many, actually probably all of them, resonate very true for me as well. And it really does just keep getting better! I looked forward to 30 because I never thought I would make it that far. Now that I have made it that far, I am actually really looking forward to my 50th birthday. I think I will be ready to really take on the world at that point! I love this bright dress on you and wish you many, many happy birthdays to come!

    Shelbee
    http://www.shelbeeontheedge.com

  • Reply Emma Peach July 5, 2021 at 4:05 pm

    I hope you had a wonderful birthday! I love your pretty pink dress! Thanks for linking up!

    Emma xxx
    http://www.style-splash.com

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